Purely by chance, or fate, I stumbled on a tweet from the Real Women of Gaming about their anti-bullying campaign. This was about the same time I was working on the article about the boy Grayson, so seeing their post got me to thinking and I made contact to help. In doing so Crymson and I got to talking about gaming, bullying, and our respective sites. If you want to help, share, or contribute to the campaign see the link on the right to Real Women of Gaming, You’re Not Alone. She mentioned she liked the Gamer Lady of the Month feature and I talked about being disappointed that I hadn’t had any gamer ladies to feature in awhile. I had exhausted all the female gamers I knew and had not had any submissions in awhile. So here we are, and I’m excited to bring back this feature and honored to have Crymson Pleasure as our first Gamer Lady of 2014. Without further ado, here is March’s Gamer Lady of the Month.
Q. What is your Gamertag and does it bear any special meaning?
Crymson Pleasure. I have always had a love for vampires even when I was a kid. When I started writing, she was one of my first characters. She’s like an LSD lollipop triple dipped in psycho and I loved every minute of writing about her until I realized I was her. She’s my vampire version of Harley Quinn.
Q. We are getting a lot of readers outside the U.S. If you don’t mind everyone knowing, what country do you hail from?
United States. The state of Pennsylvania, if you want to be more specific. The “Oh look several feet of snow! Oh, now it’s 100 degrees” state.
Q. Gamer guild/clan affiliation?
Well, I’d like to make RWoG (Real Women of Gaming) a Guild in several places, but we haven’t gotten that far yet. It is a plan, though. Right now, I have RWoG in a couple of places. In World of Warcraft I am still a part of (not leading) Order of the Blood Roses, which will always be in my heart and possibly an upcoming tattoo.
Q. Console or PC? Reason for preference?
That is a tough question. I love them both for different reasons. I love nearly all types of games so I don’t have a preference there. I play Diablo 3 on my computer, along with any Sims type games. I play several MMOs: World of Warcraft, Star Wars: The Old Republic, Secret World, Neverwinter… Wow, that is a lot, now that I think about it… Anyway, I prefer first person shooters on my console: Borderlands, Halo, Gears of War, along with the Fable series, Assassins Creed and all of my RPGs. Um, did I even answer your question? However, I never see myself without one or the other. I will always have both.
Q. When did you start gaming?
Um, hell. Nintendo! When the NES first came out, my Grandmother worked at Kiddy City (yeah, I’m old) and she got us a Nintendo. I liked Mario and all the other games, but my first love was the original Final Fantasy. I still own it and a system to play it on. I loved other games. I was never good at hockey, but I loved hearing that guy say “Blades Of Steel!” when I turned it on. I was addicted.
Q. What got you started in the world of gaming?
Years ago my (now) husband was an internet DJ on a relatively popular internet radio station called Woot Radio. I loved listening to them, but they had no girls on at the time and only one guy that played metal/goth music, so I tried it out. I was nervous at first, and pretty shy, but I shed that pretty quickly and loved it. I would host my shows while playing City of Heroes or World of Warcraft. I miss the hell out of it.
Q. What is your favorite game?
That’s like asking a Mom who her favorite child is. My favorite Final Fantasy is 7. My favorite Halo is 3. My favorite zombie game is Left 4 Dead (one more than two). My favorite Assassins Creed is Black Flag. Fable 3 of the Fable series. Borderlands 2 is in like my Top 10 games of all time. I will tell you that my favorite scare-the-shit-outta-me game was Clock Tower, freaked me out. Loved it though.
Q. Currently playing?
I’m really bad at finishing games. I mean, absolutely horrible at it. Something new comes out and I jump ship, sometimes because I’m at a slow point, but other times because I love it so much I don’t want it to end. I am playing Kingdoms of Amalur, which is an amazing game, Dead Island, League of Legends and World of Warcraft.
Q. Most anticipated future release?
Another tough one. Destiny looks beautiful. We are all still waiting for Watch Dogs. Dragon Age: Inquisition has me tingling. Tales from the Borderlands makes me jump for joy, and, of course, the leaked news about Assassins Creed.
Q. Build your own or off-the-shelf PC? Any reason for preference?
Mine is off-the-shelf, but not because I want it that way. Money and time are always a factor in these decisions and my computer dies before we can get the money and make sure we have the time to build one. I’d love to build my own, so I’m not paying stupid amounts of money for a gaming computer, and I can get what I want and need. Soon, though.
Q. Favorite game type?
I must sound like I’m dodging answering questions now, but that is not the case. RPG’s are my first love, so I will leave it at that.
Q. Favorite game character and what drew you to them?
Rydia from the US Final Fantasy II (SNES) has to be one of my all time favorites. For one, she has green hair (I think that was a first for me and I instantly wanted to dye my hair green), however her story was the best. She didn’t understand who she was, got lost from her friends and came back as one of the most bad-ass ladies ever. She went from shy and timid to doing anything to save her friends and defend what she believed in. I still want to be her when I grow up. (I did dye my hair green, not a great look for me).
Q. Have you experienced any issues related to being a female gamer and can you share a memorable good or bad experience?
Yes, I’ve been through both good and bad. The most memorable bad experience I had was this one guy in World of Warcraft threatened to come to my house and beat the living shit out of me and to “treat me like a girl should be treated.” To make it worse, his guild said that he was bipolar and couldn’t help acting like that. I’m not sure I’d ever been that shocked or outraged. He harassed me for years, but I got him suspended a couple of times by reporting it.
My favorite experience was when someone was really shocked I was playing a warrior and tanking. I told him that a girls could play whomever they wished. He laughed and said he didn’t get that memo. I know he meant it to be a compliment because later he told me I was pretty amazing at it.
Q. What advice would you give you ladies who are worried about sharing their love of gaming, or experiencing negativity because they have?
Screw anyone who says you can’t love or do something because you’re a girl! You don’t love anything less because of it. You’re not less of a player because of it and hiding it from people only hurts you in the long run. Be who you are without fear of anyone but yourself because there is only one you and I bet you’re pretty damned amazing. When we hide, they win and I am a sore friggin’ loser. If that doesn’t work, I’ll beat them up for you.
Q. Finally, how did Real Women of Gaming, and your involvement with the site, start?
Well, that starts with me rolling through Facebook one day. My news feed had a ton of posts from the gaming pages that I followed. All the ‘Gamer Girlz’ pages were (I totally wish I was joking about this, but I’m not) half naked teenage girls taking selfies with their controllers and chewing on cords. I had a couple of thoughts, my first being, “Ew, why would you stick that in your mouth?” The second was an extreme amount of anger at the fact that this WAS NOT helping me or any female I know in a productive way. If anything, I felt that this encouraged the Xbox live messages I continue to get about my bra size, if I’m single and propositioning me for sexual favors. This happens an alarming amount, and not just on Xbox. Not to mention, it’s amazing how good every teenage girl is a Call of Duty prodigy. I was no less than furious about all of it when I looked at these pages and they were full of selfies and Call of Duty.
I messaged a couple of my female friends on Facebook, who are avid gamers (not just video games), and asked them if they’d be interested in joining me. So, I made Real Women of Gaming. I bought aboard women who loved gaming as much as I did and it took off from there. We’ve added more admins as we’ve grown, but besides being a gamer, I ensure that our admins are ensuring that we are not part of the problem.
So, I am Goddess and they are Demi-Goddesses, as we say. Truly, they are my sisters and we are excited with all of the progress we have made and all of the projects we have ahead of us.
Like our Project “You’re Not Alone,” which is an anti-bullying project. Bullying is still such a serious problem and is looked over or passed off as people being “too sensitive.” I’ve been bullied my whole life and now I’m being bullied because I’m a female gamer. It breaks my heart that in 2014 it has only gotten worse and that we still need to keep putting a spotlight on it, however I will continue to help shine that light as long as I can.
I also want to take the time out to personally thank Frags and Beer for being such an active believer in our project. Your support is truly amazing.