Bullying is part of our societal norm anymore. It is tragic, really, that we are trying to teach children not to bully each other in school, to be nice online, to never spew hatred and remember people’s feelings but, after taking a step back, I realize we are the worst at being kind.
Because of social media, we can sit at our computers and laugh at sites like “People of Walmart” and say horrible things without consequence, because we obviously don’t care how that person feels. Today, I saw someone post a ‘Worst Wedding Dresses’ article, making fun of women for the dresses they wore on their wedding day, an extremely special day for most, and I actually wondered for a second if anyone laughed at me in my dress. I loved my dress. I felt so special and beautiful and the thought that someone might laugh at that moment broke my heart.
I’ve been bullied my whole life and I know I’ve bullied, too, I’m sure much more then I will even know because I am a child of the internet. It was born when I was young and I cannot remember a time without it. I have to say that I am very happy it didn’t exist while I was in school because then it wasn’t constant. I don’t know that I would have survived the bullying of today.
Being a female gamer, I get picked on constantly. Thankfully, it has lessened over the years, but it is still there. I have people popping on my twitch channel saying harassing things to me, about me. People that have never met me, people that never will, people that watched me play a video game for not even five minutes and decided to spew hate at me for no reason. This person found me and wanted to be cruel. Of course, the motivation behind this could create an infinite list of reasons, but, at the end of the day, would any of those reasons justify this person being so cruel to me?
I think it is hard for us to teach our children anything if we are pointing and laughing at the people around us. I doubt any of those people are professional comedians or clowns. Of course, this is also easy to say and hard to do, being that being judgemental is ingrained in us. That doesn’t mean it isn’t something we shouldn’t work to change. As children, we are told to use our words, instead of using them to hurt maybe, we should try a little better to express our true feelings.
I feel that if we want our children to not be bullies, then we need to stop as adults. Don’t be a bully and don’t let others bully you. Don’t point and laugh because you have no idea what that person is dealing with. Treat people as you would like to be treated. Don’t be silent. You have a voice. Use it.
Every life is a miracle, every voice should be heard, every person is special.
And if you’re being bullied, please know that it does get better. You will get better. I promise it isn’t always like this. You’re loved, you’re needed and you’re not alone.
Crymson Pleasure is the head of Real Women of Gaming, a mother, gamer, vampire goddess, and advocate for those who need as many friends as they can get. You can follow RWoG on Twitter at @ and on Facebook at facebook.com/RealWomenOfGaming.